Then if so, understand the three levels of motivation and you’ll learn how to reach a new level of commitment that will stick for good!
1) The first stage is "fear-based motivation" which is an emotionally charged form of motivation.
In this stage you may fear getting any heavier. You may be frightened that you are starting to look like your mom. Maybe you had a health scare like a bad blood test result or recent illness.
The fear based stage is good because it motivates you to do something about your situation, but the problem is that it is not long lasting. Once you take action and the problem begins to fade, you resolve the fear. As the fear dissipates, you will either go back to your old behaviors and relapse or move up to the second stage of motivation.
2) The second stage of motivation is what we refer to as "feedback-based motivation."
Your motivation is fueled by all the various forms of feedback that you get from various outside factors:
You see the scale needle plummeting to the left.
Friends and family members turn their heads (toward you) when you walk in the room.
Clothes are starting to slide off your body (time to put another notch in your belt!).
Maybe members of the opposite sex are starting to notice and you dig the new attention.
The problem with feedback based motivation is that it has to end.
What happens when your clothes can't get any looser?
Friends and family members that complimented you early on quit commenting about your weight by the third or fourth time that they see you.
What happens when the scale can't go any lower?
As the feedback begins to diminish, your motivation can begin to fade and you will move to one of two places. You will either fall back to your old behaviors and gain your weight back, or you will move into the third stage of motivation.
3) The third stage of motivation is based on an innate or inner drive that encompasses the "big picture."
In this stage of motivation you come to understand that eating right and exercising isn't a "have to," it's simply a part of who you are and what you do.
When a person reaches this stage, self motivation is based not on weight loss, but on living a lifestyle of health that matters.
It's coming to terms with the fact that you are in control of your destiny and that each choice and decision has a consequence.
In this stage: You have an inner desire to continue with your program no matter what life throws your way. Your coping skills have become a natural part of you so that eating wrong seems harder than eating right.
Once you get to the third stage, you have arrived and success is easy. In fact, it simply becomes a part of who you are and what you do.
Your goal should simply be to get to that third stage, because permanent success is tough without it.
God Bless,
Steve